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I, Too, Was Abused By the Founder of Covenant House, When I worked as a Peer Counselor at the Crash Pad in Greenwich Village

August 14, 2015

Activists urge Pope Francis to address sex abuse by clergy during U.S. visit

August 13

 

“I, Too, Was Abused By the Founder of Covenant House, When I worked as a Peer Counselor at the Crash Pad in Greenwich Village.”  And it was not the only time.  My 10th grade history teacher repeatedly lavished attention and tried to have sex with me when I was fifteen years old.”  When I was a student at Bank Street College of Education I was fired for not sleeping with the boss.”  My mother was aware of the emotional and physical abuse by the history teacher but did nothing.  In retrospect, the incidents with these two men affected my feelings and trust of others, as well as my sense of intimacy.  I was a very shy child and there was no one often to relate to as I grew into adulthood.  All of my life I have been haunted by the experiences I suffered from early in my life.  These matters are never one-sided.  Our values and treatment of people who are GLBTQ continue to be transfixed on ancient interpretations of scriptures that devalues people who are gay, transgender, queer.  Only the American Indians have a perspective of the “two-spirit” way that views all people as gifts, especially those who are gay.  They have in some circles exulted positions of meaning and resonance in their tribes.  I do not judge Bruce or Joe for their painful attempts to have sex with me.  I judge our Christian heritage and cultural immoral treatment of others who live differently as creating the monster that we have had to dwell with throughout ages and which impacted lives of innocent children.  Shame on any institution that does not embrace diversity.”

Personal Editorial comment – August 2015

John Salveson didn’t give up his obsession with the Catholic Church easily. There were polite letters in the early 1980s, asking that the priest who molested him when he was a teenager be removed.

His bishop wrote back, but the priest remained, transferring parishes through the late ’80s, according to a grand jury report. “Sincerely yours in Christ,” the bishop closed his letters.

Later, Salveson led a group that advocated for church reform. But by the mid-2000s, he had grown discouraged and shifted his focus to pushing for stronger laws and enforcement.

Prompted by Pope Francis’s trip to Philadelphia this fall, Salveson has renewed his activism toward the church, calling for the pontiff and other participants in a global Catholic meeting on family issues to discuss child sex abuse by clergy members and wear black ribbons to represent “the darkness that infects the souls of survivors,” he said.

The official itinerary for Francis’s U.S. trip includes no mention of the topic, although some experts think the pontiff will address it in an impromptu way, as Pope Benedict did during his last trip to the United States, in 2008.

The visit is reason for celebration among those who consider Francis the first pope to begin restoring the Catholic Church’s moral authority after sex abuse scandals, which led many American Catholics to fall away from their faith. But it is painful for many others who think Francis and the church have not done enough to reach out to victims or punish those who oversaw abusers.

Advocates point out that the pope has held no bishop explicitly accountable — allowing a few to instead quietly resign. And church officials continue to spend millions fighting litigation.

Most sex abuse survivors have never received an apology from their church leaders, advocates say. They are unable to seek relief in criminal or civil courts because of statutes of limitation and are left with deep scars that can make it challenging to hold a job or have an intimate relationship. The vast majority of survivors have left the Catholic Church, experts say, and to see it celebrated regularly in the media can be painful.

Arthur Baselice, a retired Philadelphia police detective whose son died of a drug overdose a decade ago after years of clergy abuse, is angry about the pope’s efforts for survivors.

“He’s creating a diversion. All he does is talk. . . . You think this guy ever worked a day in his life? How could he have empathy for people like us?” Baselice said. Then he began to cry.

Others think Francis’s actions demonstrate his intent to make lasting changes.

“I think he’s a rock star,” said Andy Druding, 54, a survivor from Philadelphia who said he is unable to work because of post-traumatic stress and depression. “He really seems to be someone who genuinely seems to want to get to the bottom of this and stop it.”

 

Victims of sex abuse who praise Francis note that the pontiff has taken concrete steps, including embracing six survivors during a Mass in 2013.

“I beg your forgiveness, too, for the sins of omission on the part of church leaders who did not respond adequately to reports of abuse made by family members, as well as by abuse victims themselves,” he said. “This led to even greater suffering on the part of those who were abused, and it endangered other minors who were at risk.”

Later that year, Francis created a high-level commission charged with making recommendations on how to prevent abuse, help victims and punish church officials responsible.

Another highly praised move came in June when Francis followed the commission’s recommendation to create a Vatican tribunal that eventually will be able to try and penalize bishops who cover up abuse. A system was in place to punish abusers, but until now, there has been no process for the bishops who oversaw them.

But five days after announcing the tribunal, the Vatican allowed two Minnesota bishops caught up in a criminal sex abuse case to resign without comment. It is unclear whether the two will face the future tribunal. Prosecutors had charged the archdiocese — not the bishops — with mishandling abuse cases.

Members of the papal commission — which includes two survivors and prominent Boston Cardinal Sean O’Malley — have been outspoken in their criticism of the church in various cases.

“Pope Francis has brought a little more hope that the church is changing. But on the other hand, there’s an enormous amount of things that are not changing and that survivors see,” said Marie Collins, an Irish abuse survivor who sits on the commission.

Philadelphia, where the pope will participate in the World Meeting of Families, is home to the only U.S. church official ever charged with covering up abuse. Monsignor William Lynn was convicted in 2012, following two unusual grand jury reports accusing three consecutive archbishops of protecting abusers.

Salveson said he’d like to tune out the news about the upcoming papal visit, but as a prominent executive headhunter who sits on high-level boards, he is in regular contact with those involved with the trip. People often ask him his view of Francis.

Following Salveson’s letter to him about the abuse, John McGann, his bishop on New York’s Long Island, spoke to Salveson’s alleged abuser, the Rev. Robert Huneke, according to letters McGann shared with Salveson. In one such letter to McGann, the priest apologizes, saying, “I deeply regret the incidents and am truly sorry for any harm caused. I have undergone counseling as well as spiritual direction and will continue both and feel there will be no recurrence of such incidents.” Huneke died in 2002.

In 2003, Salveson was among 23 men who alleged in a $100 million lawsuit against the Rockville Centre Diocese that they were abused — they named 15 priests — and that the diocese in Suffolk County covered it up. The lawsuit came a few months after a Suffolk County grand jury report cited abuse cases involving 23 priests whom the report said the diocese transferred around in an effort to bury details of the abuse. Prosecutors told the Associated Press at the time that they were prevented from pursuing criminal charges against the diocese because of statutes of limitation, and civil lawsuits were dismissed for the same reason.

In a story he has recounted many times, Salveson described being a 13-year-old Catholic school student on Long Island when he first encountered Huneke, a young priest who had just arrived at the parish. The priest took to Salveson and invited him on a road trip. One night, Salveson said, the priest crawled into his bed and performed oral sex on him.

After the incident, Salveson became, in effect, two teenagers, he said: one who was a confident and high-functioning student, and a second who lived in terror of Huneke while also seeking his approval. When Salveson tried to stop the involvement, he said, Huneke either lambasted him as ungrateful or cried and begged for it to continue.

Huneke eventually followed Salveson to college to pursue his own academic work, and the relationship continued until Salveson was 20 and broke things off with the priest.

In 1978, Salveson moved to Philadelphia, where he struggled with a serious drinking problem and depression. In the early 1980s, after he realized in therapy that he’d been a victim of sexual abuse, he contacted McGann out of concern that Huneke was abusing others. McGann thanked Salveson for raising “the matter” and said Huneke had “overcome the situation” and was thriving as a priest.

McGann died in 2002, a year before the grand jury report was released. Spokespeople for the Rockville Centre Diocese did not comment after repeated requests.

Huneke was transferred to different parishes, and the grand jury report found that there were other victims, including during the two-year period after Salveson’s initial complaint. Huneke left the priesthood about 1989, according to media reports.

“I really could not believe the bishops wouldn’t do something about this guy, and at a minimum tell people they had this problem in their parish,” Salveson said.

In 2006, Salveson founded the Foundation to Abolish Child Sex Abuse, which advocates for longer criminal statutes of limitations and expanded civil windows for victims to sue.

“I thought it was my job to change the church. And what I learned from 1980 until today is that it is not a moral issue [for the church], it is a risk-management issue,” he said.

In an op-ed in the Philadelphia Inquirer last month, Salveson said he was again spotlighting the Catholic Church because he doesn’t think the problem has been solved. Today, he wrote, there is a pope “who holds such promise and generates such hope.”

Although new allegations against Catholic clergy members are less frequent, there are major exceptions. Earlier this month, Minnesota media reported that more than 400 claims of child sex abuse are being made against the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis. The claims are coming because of a landmark 2013 state law that lifted the statute of limitations for three years.

Monsignor Stephen Rossetti, a psychologist who advises dioceses worldwide on child protection, said the pope is making what insiders consider dramatic bureaucratic changes that will show impact after Francis is gone. But in the meantime, he said, the issue is what message is being sent.

“The image from some people can be cold and uncaring and not listening,” Rossetti said.

Druding, the survivor from Philadelphia, said he was raped as a boy after choir practice. In two recent e-mails with the archdiocese’s victim assistance coordinator, he asked if he could meet with Archbishop Charles Chaput about the abuse, and with the pope during his visit.

In the e-mails, the victim assistance coordinator tells Druding that he can’t meet with Chaput until the archdiocese’s internal investigation of the allegations ends. As far as the pope goes, the coordinator wrote in a July 17 e-mail, “at this time, there is no meeting planned with any other groups or people. I hope you are enjoying the summer.” (A spokesman for the Philadelphia Archdiocese said it can’t comment on internal communications.)

Druding, who sounds thrilled about Francis’s trip, said he hasn’t given up hope of seeing him. The pope plans to visit inmates in a prison that is around the corner from his house.

“Maybe I’ll go over and there and wave,” he says. “If they let you get close.”

Michelle Boorstein is the Post’s religion reporter, where she reports on the busy marketplace of American religion.
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