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7 Ways You Can Help a Loved One Who Suffers With Depression With Courage to Care

7 Ways You Can Help a Loved One Who Suffers from Depression With Courage to Care


I have battled with this addictive allure of depression and suicide for decades. I was diagnosed with this disease when I was 48, but remember agonizing times from earliest childhood when I could not make sense and find a balance in my brain firing  synapses.  MOST PEOPLE could not understand my symptoms including my family members and irrevocably I become disassociated with almost everyone who I ever loved.  Many of those who loved me did not understand what was going on especially those who were closest to me.  I had to reconcile my separation from those I love, continuing my struggle in anyway possible  I still work hard functioning, finding a way to center, to fit in, to be a part of the community in which I am living.  It is overwhelming.  The sheer anxiety and doubt wear you down, like being alone on the street with nowhere to turn.

The information below about a person saying to you to “Snap out of it,” or some other more forceful intervention had the opposite effect.  Love was never accepted because I presumed that I was not worthy of being loved because I have been a nuisance, a mistake, a failure, a misogynist, a  fake, or worse, when a friend of mine who is a professional licensed clinical psychologist, with whom I grew up, said, “You’re living in the past.”   Assuredly, his judgement and scorn were successful in cementing one experience of loss that is transfixed, that over and over again I made the same blunders in everything I have ever done. 

Contemplating suicide is a real threat. It does not matter if the person tries and fails or completes the act of taking his or her life.  In my case the effort to die went unabated from early in my life to the advent of 9/11 when I was in a coma in critical care in a trauma center. 

Needless to say, there is hope that one has the courage to care in my life and those who embrace me.  Please embrace your loved one.  Do not turn off he light.  Let that light shine as a sentinel that we can succeed in understanding and quelling the demons inside.

With Love for all of you who walk with me and anyone who suffers this way. YOU’RE a finite gift to us all.

7 ways you can help a loved one with depression, according to experts

There were so many things I was willing to speak to the father of my child about. Politics? Of course. My undeniable disdain for his mother? Surprisingly, not all that difficult to discuss. But even now, four years and a baby later, I have a difficult time articulating my depression and how he can help me.

Figuring out how you can help a family member suffering from depression isn’t easy, especially since depression impacts different people in different ways. But it is worth trying.

According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), affects 6.8 million adults, or roughly 3.1% of the United States population. Still, only 43.2% of those affected receive treatment. The World Health Organization (WHO) cites major depression as the heaviest burden of disability among mental and behavior disorders.

The stigma associated with mental health disorders, like depression, also inhibits individuals from seeking the support and treatment they need.In 2011, only 59.6% of individuals with mental illness reported receiving treatment, and the stereotypes depicting people with mental illness as being dangerous, unpredictable, and generally incompetent often discouraged individuals from speaking candidly about their mental health.

The first step in helping your loved one who is suffering from depression is acknowledging that they have it. We rounded up some other tips that will help you be a good ally to those in your life grappling with this mental illness.

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