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What Does Our Life Matter If We Are Not Righteous In Our Bearing

February 5, 2019

What Does Our Life Matter If We Are Not Righteous In Our Bearing

Image may contain: 2 people, people smiling, text that says 'Thinking of Sophie Scholl, who was executed on this day in 1943 for leading student resistance against Hitler She was 21, Our Resilient Bodies February 22 at 3:03pm Her last words: "How can we expect righteousness to prevail when there is hardly anyone willing to give himself up individually to a righteous cause? Such a fine sunny day, and have to go, but what I does my death matter, if through us thousands of people are awakened and stirred to action?"'



My Lover Awakens My Spirit Ecstasy in All Sacred Tender Dreaming Awakens Me

February 3, 2019

My Lover Awakens My Spirit Ecstasy in All Sacred Tender Dreaming Awakens Me

This is my favorite means of communciating  aside from in person. To say that I love you is simple and sublime.  You will learn a lot more words with me that change your awareness of everything with my council and touch.  I am a writer from a family of writers that stretches back to a town along the Rhine River between the Netherlands and Germany.  I enjoy writing poetry and I will write to you one day in Chinese and pratice Buddhism if you will be my guide not my guru. I believe in equity that we share this world together as equals for the hte rest of my life.  I will be tender and expect that you live accordingly in whatever way makes you fulfilled and caring.  I AM NOT A RICH Man  my wealth I garnered by living simply and wanting nothing.  I will be one of the most giving and loving persons you have ever known both to Yolanda and you if you will  marry me.  This is in effect a proposal. I hope you’re enjoying the world you certainly have given me great joy even 15,000 Kms afar.  

emptiness my mother’s untimely loss alone suffering painfully as she had lived her life in fear sickness and trembling unto an ultimate void

February 2, 2019

MA MERE   ELISE BETTY KAUDERS                  MUERTE   ENCIMA DE MI CUMPLEANO  SIETE  ANOS PASADOS Hoy es 2 de febrero de 2019  7 years ago my mother died

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According to my sister:

On the morning of Feb. 2, seven years ago, my mother, Elise Loeb was found dead in her apartment in suburban Philadelphia. She was 95 years old. She lived alone. Her neighbors across the hall suspected that something was wrong because she had The New York Times delivered every day and left on a shelf outside her door. She hadn’t picked up the paper in two days. Although Feb. 2 is listed on her death certificate as the day of her death, I suspect that she died in the night between Jan. 31 and Feb. 1. I couldn’t sleep that night. I was up and down all night long. I don’t know how to explain this. I only report this as fact: she was trying to get in touch with me on her way out of this world. She was either saying “Help me!” or “Goodbye.” Or both. I wasn’t able to help her that night. I haven’t said goodbye.


I DID SAY AU REVOIR  GOOD BYE   SLEEP on my birthday we had an argument that was propelled by her wild thoughts that I blamed her for everything that had gone wrong in my life.  SHE WAS MISTAKEN.  I did not feel anything except remorse.  Her untimely death was a sign of how she chose to shut out the world.  She died as a scared vulnerable narcissistic consumed broken down mentally ill alone old nag

MY Mom was beautiful. How fortunate she was to have lived such a long life. she felt as though she lived too long.  She wished for death.  I can only imagine what she saw and experienced in 95 years.  She suffered terror and fear and sickness unto death without end throughout her life at the hands of her mother Gertrude who also died by herself.  In many ways they were abandoned.  I can imagine that my sister will suffer in the same way.  I will chose my time and place of death at my own hands.  We all die alone and here there is no grieving  but emptiness.  Life is an unbroken river ever flowing onward to the sea disappearing in the void

I cannot reminisce.

I never was in her apartment but after her death in September I was able to go to the property thanks to Gabe a childhood neighbor. I MISS her despite the frailties of her relationship to me and my family. SADLY we did not have a pleasant exchange on my birthday January 29 a few days earlier. I am sure that her fears overcame her sense of how much I was impacted by her personality and live out her values, sense and sensibility. NEVER speak about anything without considering her perspectives. “The apple does not fall far from the tree,” in my case especially. My take

my sister’s account two years ago  interesting her perspective on this day of her death  seems that she feels that her spirit was saying good bye to the one she loved.

Her version of the last moments of my mother’s life
Five years ago this morning, I got a phone call to say that my mother had been found dead in her bathroom. Feb. 2 is officially listed as the date of her death, but I believe that she actually died on the night between Jan. 31 and Feb. 1. I say that because I was unable to sleep that night. I would doze for a little while and get up and then try to sleep again. But I couldn’t. My mother was passionate about politics and a passionate liberal. If she were alive now, I know what she would be saying. Although she could be cruel in her personal interactions, she was a passionate believer in compassion for those in need, in justice and inclusiveness for all and in the rights of women to vote, to get an education and to be in charge of their own bodies. She was a life-long Democrat. Franklin Delano Roosevelt was her hero, followed by many other Democrats, most notably, Adlai Stevenson.

I know that her descendants are carrying on her beliefs and her work — every one of us. My photo shows my mother in her apartment with some of her books (she was an avid reader up to the day of her death) with my son and with one of her great-grandsons.


Account by ma soeur  

“I’ll tell you one thing that she experienced in her 95 years. She sometimes remarked that she was born before women could vote in federal elections. On election days, she would go to the polls first thing in the morning “in case,” as she said, “something happens to me today so that I can’t get there.” Having heard about this since I was a wee child, I registered to vote on the first day that I was eligible and have never missed voting in an election since then. Something else that she experienced in her 95 years: She was born during World War I, lived through the Depression, which necessitated her dropping out of college and got married and gave birth to me during World War II. She gave birth to my brother during the Korean War. Franklin Delano Roosevelt was the first U.S. president that she ever voted for. He was her hero. I was very young, but I remember her crying when he died. The last president she ever voted for was Barack Obama. She always voted Democratic. Always! She had words for Republicans that couldn’t be published in a family newspaper. I can’t fully imagine what she would be saying now.”

“Are there people whose parents were all good or all bad so that their children could love them or revile them without reservations? If there are such parents, I marvel! If there are such children, I’m not among them.”

There are indeed such revelations of despair and loss  by that there is absence which is its own loss 


February 2, 2019

code blue call   215 232 1984  in Philaedlphia


We’ve been receiving calls and emails from Philadelphians asking how they can help during this particularly harsh #CodeBlue period—thank you everyone!—and we think the piece below nicely sums up the options. Take a look. And KEEP calling the Homeless Outreach Hotline at 215-232-1984!

25th Infantry Bicycle Corps Traveled 1900 miles in 1997 at the time that the train was first created

February 1, 2019

25th Infantry Bicycle Corps Traveled 1900 miles in 1997 at the time that the train for pedaling was first created.

Little-Known Heroes: All-Black 25th Infantry Bicycle Corps

Little-Known Heroes: All-Black 25th Infantry Bicycle Corps


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We delve into the story of the little-known 25th Infantry Bicycle Corps, an all-black group of badass bikers who crossed 1,900 miles of the American frontier in service to the country.

In June of 1897, the all-black company of the 25th Mobile Infantry, under command of a white lieutenant and accompanied by a medic and a journalist, embarked on a journey across America’s heartland — from Fort Missoula, Montana, to St. Louis, Missouri — to “test most thoroughly the bicycle as a means of transportation for troops.”

Their trek would span 41 days and 1,900 miles and pit the men against sandhills, the Rocky Mountains, rain, snow, poison, and more. Decades before Dr. King had his famous dream, these men were sweating together, bleeding together, and biking together as a team.

Their trip proved two truths that we should hold self-evident today: 1) All men are created equal; 2) All men are nowhere near as tough as they were in 1897.

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Gears Weren’t Invented Yet

Few people can grasp the physical anguish of traveling nearly 2,000 miles on a bike, save the few elite riders who train a lifetime to ride professional events like the Tour de France. The Tour did not exist in 1897 and neither did gears (the closest thing to blood doping was baking soda).

Not only were the men of the 25th infantry not elite riders, some of them had never so much as ridden a bike (not too surprising considering the bicycle chain had just been invented). Even still, each man pedaled or pushed his bike every inch of the 1,900 miles and did so without “granny gears.”

The Spalding Army Special Bicycle was Insanely Heavy

Making any 2,000-mile trip by bicycle is impressive. The feat becomes superhuman if that bike weighs 55 pounds, which is exactly what the “Buffalo Soldiers” of the 25th were working with. The bike was 35 pounds of pure steel (the wheels alone were six pounds), add on the Civil War-era tents, poles, change of clothes, toiletries, cooking and eating utensils, spare parts, rifle and ammunition each man had to carry, and you’ve essentially got a rolling anvil. What’s more, the troop several times had to push these behemoths up the Continental Divide and carry them across rivers.

The Roads Were So Bad They Rode on Train Tracks

As bad as you may think the roads are today, they are an endless stretch of undisturbed memory foam compared to the ass-shattering wagon tracks that passed for interstates in 1897. The rocky, rutted mud paths were so bad, in fact, that the men often opted to brave the predictable agony of riding along the railroad tracks instead.

Even more ludicrous, many of the Burlington and Northern Pacific railways in the west were newly constructed, and oftentimes they lacked any ballast or gravel, meaning between railroad ties were nine-inch-deep holes up to two feet wide. To get some idea how this might have felt, take an old, heavy steel bike — one you don’t care about too much — and throw yourself and it down a 10-mile flight of stairs twice a day for a month.

Resupply Every 100 Miles

In an effort to keep his men focused and on the move, Lt. James A. Moss arranged supply points at 100-mile intervals along the 1,900-mile route. Considering the men’s capacity to carry at most two days’ worth of rations on their bikes, that’s one hell of a motivated cycling club. When the going was good (tailwind going downhill), the 25th could muster 18 miles per hour. Unfortunately, the going was almost never good in 1897 and average speed — thanks to washed out roads, oncoming trains, repair breaks, and the soldiers’ incessant need to eat every day — was a meager 6.5 mph. To reach each checkpoint without starving to death, the infantry routinely pedaled 10 or more hours every day for six weeks.

It Rained 10 Days In The First Two Weeks, Snowed In June

25th bicycle infantry

It’s said that a journey, once begun, is half over. It doesn’t mention that the other half is a miserable soaking march through torrential downpours, a snowstorm in the summer, and a single change of clothes that you can never wash. Getting rained on riding to work is enough to make most people take the bus. Imagine your frustration if your work were four states away, it had been raining every day for a week, and your bus hadn’t been built yet. That’s still not as horrifying as having to ride a bike over the Rocky Mountains during a snowfall – which they also did.

Two Days Rest In Six Weeks

That’s right. Though the total trip accumulated seven days’ worth of “delay” (stops for repairs, lunch, and tire changes), only two days of the 41 traveled did the men not begin their day by climbing into the saddle and ticking off miles from their journey.

They Ate Crackers And Beans, Slept On Cacti

If you’ve never heard of hardtack, it’s because you’ve never sailed across the ocean or served in the American Civil War. These bland, rock hard biscuits are as difficult to eat as they are to spoil, which is why they were perfect for a Sisyphean bike ride across America. This food is so bland that saltines were later invented to improve the flavor. The only two other modern conveniences (besides crackers that didn’t suck) that would have made life less excruciating are campgrounds and sleeping pads. As it was, the soldiers slept under the stars wrapped in a wool blanket and on top of the least number of “prickly pear” bushes as possible.

The Water Was Poison

Yeah. Read it again. As if riding a 55-pound steel bike through snow and rain up a mountain and along railroad tracks for ten hours a day for 41 days with nothing to eat but crackers wasn’t bat$#!t crazy enough, the 25th drank from a poison water supply. Specifically, aquifers were often high in alkali, sometimes contained dysentery, and at least once harbored cholera. Despite several members falling ill with these maladies, each man arrived in St. Louis on his bicycle.

Nine Months After The 1,900-Mile Ride They Went To War

In April of 1898, in a response to growing anti-Spanish sentiment and the mysterious sinking of the U.S.S. Maine, the U.S. declared war against Spain. Among the very first troops called to action were the valiant men of the 25th Infantry. Though their testament to the dependability of the bicycle yielded no further exploration into its military use, they’d proven their mettle and place in history fixed.

On MLK Day this year, as people gather to sing choruses of “We Shall Overcome,” remember that in 1897, 23 men — some black, some white — did just that.

Want to learn more? The hour-long PBS documentary below delves into the details of the Bicycle Corps.


February 1, 2019

How Finland Solved the Epidemic of People Living in Public Spaces


How Finland Solved Homelessness  EXCELLENT SUPPORTIVE SERVICES

With one ridiculously simple policy, it has almost completely eradicated street homelessness.

Four years ago, Thomas Salmi was drinking to forget. He was homeless and living on the streets of Finland’s capital city Helsinki.


He had a rough start in life. He wasn’t able to live at home because his father had problems with aggression. He ended up going to nine different children’s homes, before falling through the cracks of the system in his late teens. By 21 he was homeless. “I lost the sense of a normal life. I became depressed, aggressive, angry and I abused alcohol a lot.” He would drink up to half a gallon a day and then get into trouble. “I thought why would I care if I go to jail? I don’t have to be out there in snow and cold.” 


Salmi was sleeping in Helsinki train station when a social worker found him and told him he could help. He was put in touch with Helsinki Deaconess Institute (HDI), a Finnish nonprofit that provides social services. A year later he moved into Aurora-Tola, a 125-unit house run by HDI.


Now 25 years old, he lives in his own studio apartment, works as a janitor and life is getting back on track. “I know that if I am in my house nobody is coming to get me out or telling me what to do,” he said, ”If I want to dance in my home, I can.” 


Thomas has decorated his apartment with things he has found in his work cleaning other apartments of the building, after some

Thomas has decorated his apartment with things he has found in his work cleaning other apartments of the building, after someone has moved or passed away. Each item carries a story. 

Salmi is a beneficiary of Finland’s much-lauded “housing first” approach, which has been in place for more than a decade.


The idea is simple. To solve homelessness you start by giving someone a home, a permanent one with no strings attached. If they want to drink, they can; if they want to take drugs, that’s fine too. Support services are made available to treat addiction, mental health and other problems, and to help people get back on their feet, from assisting with welfare paperwork to securing a job.


The housing in Finland is a mix of designated standard apartments sprinkled through the community, and supported housing: apartment blocks with on-site services, built or renovated specifically for chronically homeless people. A Salvation Army building in Helsinki, for example, was converted from a 250-bed emergency shelter to an 81 apartment supported housing unit. 


Formerly homeless residents have a rental contract just like anyone else. They pay rent from their own pockets or through the benefits afforded by Finland’s relatively generous welfare state.


The approach is working. As homelessness rises across Europe, Finland’s numbers are falling. In 1987, there were around 18,000 homeless people. In 2017, there were 7,112 homeless people, of which only 415 were living on the streets or in emergency shelters. The vast majority (84 percent) were staying temporarily with friends or relatives. Between 2008 and 2015, the number of people experiencing long-term homelessness dropped by 35 percent.


The reason? Finland approaches homelessness “as a housing problem and a violation of fundamental rights, both solvable, and not as an inevitable social problem resulting from personal issues,” said an analysis from Feantsa, a European network that focuses on homelessness.


Traditionally, homeless people are told to straighten up and quit drinking or doing drugs as a precondition to housing. But critics point to the grinding difficulty of shaking addiction from the streets or from temporary shelter beds.

“If something happens and you aren’t successful, like it always happens, it’s the nature of addiction, then you are back on the street,” said Heli Akila, service area director at HDI which housed Thomas Salmi.


A Salvation Army building in Helsinki was converted from a 250-bed emergency shelter to an 81-apartment supported housin

A Salvation Army building in Helsinki was converted from a 250-bed emergency shelter to an 81-apartment supported housing unit.


Finland’s approach ultimately comes down to values, said Juha Kaakinen, an architect of the housing first approach and CEO of the nonprofit Y-Foundation. “The Finnish attitude is that we have to help people who are in the most difficult position, whatever the reason they have become homeless,” he said. “We understand very well that the main reasons behind homelessness are structural reasons.”


In Espoo, a city two miles west of the Finnish capital, a housing unit sits overlooking a lake. This is Väinölä, a small development built in 2014, which is home to 35 formerly homeless people in 33 apartments.

Eight nurses work on shifts to ensure someone is available 24 hours a day, and a work activity coach and coordinator organize work for those who can and want to do it. This could be anything from cooking meals to packing reflectors and it earns residents €2 ($2.30) a day.


Teams of residents also collect trash locally. “The neighborhood loves it because they think this area is now cleaner than ever,” said Jarkko Jyräsalo, who runs Väinölä. “Sometimes housing units like this have problems with their neighbors, but we don’t.”


Despite the different, sometimes severe, needs of residents, Väinölä is mostly peaceful. Jyräsalo credits weekly community meetings between residents and staff. “They are people who are used to solving their problems with fists or fighting. But now we have learnt to discuss things.”


Väinölä, a supported housing unit in Espoo, Finland.

Väinölä, a supported housing unit in Espoo, Finland.


Finland’s success at cutting homelessness has attracted a huge amount of international attention, and the Y-Foundation’s Kaakinen is often asked to explain how the country mobilized such strong political will. For him, it boils down to this: “There has to be some individual politician who has the social consciousness.” 

In Finland’s case it was Jan Vapaavuori, now Helsinki’s mayor but then the housing minister, who drove the housing first approach. Vapaavuori’s politics – he’s in the center-right National Coalition Party – were important, said Kaakinen. When a radical idea is championed by a conservative politician, “it’s very difficult for others to oppose it,” he said. Since then, politicians of all stripes in Finland have continued to support the approach.


It’s not just central government, either. It has been a huge collaborative effort also including cities, businesses, NGOs and state-owned gambling company Veikkaus, formerly Finland’s Slot Machine Association, whose profits go to social causes.

While it’s expensive to build, buy and rent housing for homeless people, as well as provide the vital support services, the architects of the policy say it pays for itself. Studies have found housing one long-term homeless person saves society around €15,000 ($17,000) a year, said Kaakinen, due to a reduction in their use of services such as hospital emergency rooms, police and the criminal justice system.

Inside one of the apartments at Väinölä.

Inside one of the apartments at Väinölä.


The housing first approach has its critics. There are those who balk at the idea of people getting free housing when they are seen as having made bad choices. There are accusations that allowing people to continue using alcohol and drugs normalizes the behavior. “But no we don’t,” said Akila of HDI. “Drugs are here, all these things are here, and we are just trying. It’s a human dignity question, you have to have a place to stay.”

There are also criticisms from some of the formerly homeless people who benefit from the policy. Jyri-Pekka Pursiainen is one of them. A divorce and sudden unemployment knocked him off balance, and he found himself on the streets. For the last two years, he has lived in a studio apartment in a supported housing block in Helsinki, carved out of a former retirement home.


But he is unhappy. “The place I am living now, you can’t call it home … The whole building is moldy, it’s in really bad shape. People get sick there,” he said. He was told the apartment would be short term. But nearly two years down the line, he is still there with no clue when he might move on. He wants somewhere safe where his three children can visit him. 


Still, Pursiainen admits his situation is better now than when he was homeless. He has his own place, and he lives in the center of Helsinki paying a monthly rent of €331 ($379), less than a third of what a standard studio apartment would ordinarily cost there.


A street in the center of Helsinki, Finland. More than half of the country's homeless people live in the city.

A street in the center of Helsinki, Finland. More than half of the country’s homeless people live in the city.


None of the housing first advocates suggest that the approach is problem-free, but it’s a base from which people can start to rebuild. “Maybe it’s not perfect, maybe it’s not the dream you had when you were young but this is your own place,” said Akila.

Finland is not alone in following a housing first approach. It’s already being used in countries such as Denmark, Canada, Australia and also the U.S. 

Breaking Ground, a homelessness NGO that operates 4,000 housing units across New York and Connecticut, was one of the pioneers of a housing first approach, said CEO Brenda Rosen.  

They hear from critics all the time, she said, who argue people should need to address their issues before they get housing. “We fundamentally feel that that is backwards … rather than expending all your energy and trying to get through each and every day and figure out how you will eat your meals and survive another night through a cold winter, the most decent, humane and cost-effective way is to bring folks inside.” 


Housing first is effective in America, said Nan Roman, president and CEO of the National Alliance to End Homelessness, but the scale of the U.S. problem is just so much bigger and the political context is different. “The strategy works,” said Roman. “That’s not the issue. The issue is how much of it are you going to do, and all credit to Finland for having the social safety net and for having the commitment to say they’re going to go to scale or for going to scale. We haven’t done that.”


Thomas says his apartment is his sanctuary.

Thomas says his apartment is his sanctuary.


Finland still has challenges. The demographics of the homeless population are shifting as new groups of people find themselves slipping through the cracks. Akila points to women as a growing group, now making up around 23 percent of homeless people. Domestic violence and increased use of substances are among the reasons for women becoming homeless, according to a Y Foundation report. Some young people, too, are finding it hard to get a footing when affordable housing is so scarce.

“We didn’t solve homelessness, we solved some part of it,” said Sanna Tiivola of the nonprofit No Fixed Abobe (VVA). But, she added, when she goes to other countries and sees they are still leaning heavily on emergency shelters as a solution, “I always think, ahhh you’re still here. Why? Why are doing this shelter thing, no, no, no don’t do it! So that’s a visible change … and that’s why I think people say that Finland solved homelessness.” 


For Salmi, Finland’s housing first approach has changed his life. He has ambitions, he wants to retrain as a pipefitter. He still drinks but only on the weekends. He still struggles with mental health problems, but far less severely and far less often than he used to, and he said he no longer has suicidal thoughts.


“My apartment is kind of a sanctuary … Before I lost my home I didn’t understand how much it meant, and when I lost it, within those three years, I kind of understand the little things in life make you happy,” he said. “I mean if I have dinner, little things, like if I have bread in my fridge later. Normal things.”

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Not As Many of Us Help: We Are Citizens It is Our Civic Duty to Aid Anyone in Need

January 31, 2019

Not As Many of Us Help  –  It is our duty as citizensMalaysia Goodson was carrying her 1-year-old daughter down the stairs at the Seventh Avenue station in Manhattan on Monday when she fell and died.© Gabriela Bhaskar for The New York Times Malaysia Goodson was carrying her 1-year-old daughter down the stairs at the Seventh Avenue station in Manhattan on Monday when she fell and died.

Two days after a 22-year-old woman with her 1-year-old daughter in a stroller fell down the steps of a Manhattan subway station, the city’s medical examiner suggested that the woman’s death was not caused by the fall but “appears to be related to a pre-existing medical condition.”

The chief medical examiner, Dr. Barbara Sampson, did not provide details except to say that there was “no significant trauma” in the death of the woman, Malaysia Goodson. She said the cause of Ms. Goodson’s death had not yet been determined. Ms. Goodson’s daughter Rhylee, who was tucked in the stroller, survived.

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For much of the day before the medical examiner’s announcement, the incident prompted an anguished dialogue about life in New York City — about how people rarely offer to lend a hand to those with strollers, about how so many subway stations lack elevators, about how the elevators in stations that have them are so often broken and about how the limitations of the city’s old and creaking transportation system create obstacles, not just for people with small children but for older passengers and people with disabilities.

a subway train at a train station: Only about one-quarter of the subway’s 472 stations are accessible and elevators at those stations are often out of order.© Hiroko Masuike/The New York Times Only about one-quarter of the subway’s 472 stations are accessible and elevators at those stations are often out of order.

More than any other, the idea of stopping and helping someone echoed through the conversation on social media and on the subway lines of the country’s busiest and biggest public transit system.

“Sometimes strangers will offer to help,” said Aurora Nona-Barnes, 35, “but not as often as you think.” Ms. Nona-Barnes, who was riding the B train on the Upper West Side, had her 2½-year-old son in a stroller and said she was eight months pregnant with her second child.

Outside the station where Ms. Goodson died, several people, including some in wheelchairs, left flowers at a makeshift memorial for Ms. Goodson. And in Albany, the managing director of the Metropolitan Transportation Authority told state lawmakers that the agency would consider making the station accessible. It opened in the 1930s and has escalators that only go up. It has no elevator.

Online, there were efforts to raise money for Ms. Goodson’s family. One page on was set up by Ms. Goodson’s brother Dieshe to help pay funeral expenses because the family does not have the money. “If you could help me please lay my sister in peace,” he wrote, it “would help me be at peace knowing I did” what “she what have done for me.”

Another campaign on GoFundMe, set up by the daycare center where Ms. Goodson worked, is raising money for Rhylee’s education.

“This has heavied a lot of hearts,” her brother wrote.

As her family mourned, a reader who identified herself on only as E wrote that she “thought back on the times I tried to get myself, my toddler and my stroller down the steep, uneven, and poorly maintained stairs, with others rushing and pushing by.”

“Those who stopped to help were godsends,” she wrote, adding: “I always worried I’d break a leg or my child would fall and hit his head.”

But like so many New Yorkers who navigate the subway system every day without realizing how treacherous it can be — or how quickly something could go unstoppably wrong — she said she never imagined that she would die. “I am so sorry that this happened to this woman and to her family,” she wrote.

She wrote that she tries to assist others, but she is older and “it is harder now that my knees have given out and I need to lean on the railing.”

Ms. Goodson’s daughter was conscious and was treated at the scene. Her mother, Tamika Goodson, said on Tuesday that Rhylee was reunited with her father and grandmother in the city and was doing well.

Others had memories of disturbingly close calls.

“I used to commute by subway from Brooklyn to the Upper East Side, where I worked, carrying my infant son in a chest pack,” wrote Lynn Somerstein. “I fell down the subway stairs once, too, but was able to twist around and take the fall on my right shoulder while holding my son’s head away from the concrete stairs.” He was unscathed, but, as she added, “We were lucky.”

Last year, Andy Byford, the subway chief, proposed a sweeping rescue plan for the failing system that included adding enough elevators by 2025 so that no subway rider would be more than two stops from an accessible station.

That is an ambitious goal for a system in which only about a quarter of the city’s 472 subway stations are wheelchair accessible, one of the lowest percentages of any major transit system in the world.

The rail networks in Boston and Chicago, like New York’s subway, are century-plus old systems. Yet they have more than twice the station accessibility, which means they offer more opportunities for passengers who cannot navigate stairs.

Some 71 percent of Boston’s subway stations and 69 percent of Chicago’s rail stations have been made accessible. Both cities have concrete plans to reach full accessibility.

The transit agency in New York says the ultimate goal is full systemwide accessibility, and it has been conducting a systemwide survey, assessing accessibility in every remaining station that needs it. On Thursday, Veronique Hakim, the managing director of the transit agency, told state lawmakers that the agency would consider making the station where Ms. Goodson died accessible.

Advocates for the disabled said that accessibility helps everyone. “A more sensitive policy recognizes that at some point in everyone’s life, they’re going to need greater measures of accessibility,” said Danny Pearlstein, the policy and communications director for the transit advocacy group Riders Alliance.

That includes parents with strollers as well as people carrying packages or suitcases or people with injuries that temporarily limit their mobility.

Another group, Disability Rights Advocates, is involved in three class-action lawsuits against the transit agency that involve accessibility. One challenges the agency’s failure to install elevators in every station. Another focuses on elevator breakdowns and alleges that elevator maintenance problems have the effect of excluding people with disabilities from the subway.

At many stations in New York where elevators have been added, the elevators often carry as many parents with strollers as people with disabilities.

Diego Perez, 44, said he had noticed how limiting the subway system was, especially for parents — but then he developed a hip problem that forces him to walk with a cane.

“It’s just difficult getting up and down the stairs,” he said, standing outside of a station in Astoria, Queens, that does not have an elevator. “And people rush to get in front of you.”

Buses may be more accessible, but there is a problem for disabled people, parents or travelers with suitcases. “The buses are packed,” he said, as he leaned on his cane and winced from knee pain.

Some subway riders said they try to help parents with strollers. Tony Mitchell, 55, figured that he does so three times a month — the last time on Monday, at the station at 103rd Street on the Lexington Avenue line.

He said the mother was trying to go down the stairs backward with the stroller, which could have been dangerous for the child. But especially on days like Wednesday, with the temperature at the freezing mark and an icy wind piercing by, the bus, he said, was not a suitable alternative for parents with strollers.

“You can’t feel the cold down underground,” he said. “With the bus, you’re right in the open with a baby. And that’s not right.”

Rosie Navarro, 38, went through the usual routine, lifting her son Rodrigo out of his stroller and hoping that someone would carry it or him. Sometimes someone offers to assist, sometimes not, she said as Rodrigo began to cry.

Ms. Navarro said the stations near where she lives in western Queenslack accessibility. The closest accessible station in one director is at Queens Plaza, two stations from the one in her neighborhood. In the other direction, she said, the closest station was four stops away.

Walking to either station with a stroller could take a half-hour, she said.

“It’s difficult,” she said. “Without elevators, it’s just difficult.”

Emma G. Fitzsimmons, Michael Gold, Derek Norman, Nate Schweber and John Surico contributed reporting.